Well you guessed it, number two is on the way for us, and we are SO excited. Bryce and I both have siblings pretty close to us in age and we love it. We are so excited for little Luke man to have a best buddy.
I just have to say, I was hesitant to post about this. I know so many people who struggle with pregnancy and fertility issues. I’m sure that some of our readers fall into that camp, and if you do, I just want you to know that miracles happen, don’t give up.
It’s interesting how much easier it is to have faith for someone else. I am struggling with my own fears right now. Our son Luke was born in his 34th week and was whisked away to the newborn intensive care unit before I could even glimpse him.
We were so blessed in so many ways. All of his preterm complications were very minor and he only had to stay in the NICU for 8 days, which all the doctors said was miraculous. The NICU staff in our hospital were angels, and it made me so grateful for modern medicine. So many sweet babies are saved in that place. Bryce and I learned a lot in the NICU about being parents and about what it feels like to watch a child struggle. The first few months of Luke’s life were SO hard, for him and us.
Luke Bryce Bailey at 5 days old. This picture doesn’t do justice to how small he really was.
Due to the circumstances of Luke’s labor, it’s likely (though not certain) that the reason he came early was a result of my genetics. I am so afraid this baby will come early. It is constantly in the back of my mind. It is so hard for me to hear pregnant women say they wish their baby would come early. People tell me I am so lucky that I wasn’t even pregnant for 8 months. I tell myself that they really just don’t know what they are talking about. We pray every night this baby will go full term.
One of my favorite quotes is from one of my favorite essayists, Montaigne. To paraphrase him, the quote is, “if you fear suffering, you are already suffering from what you fear.” How true.
I am going to try to let my fears go.
Honestly, it really doesn’t make sense to worry about things you have no control over. By worrying about something that hasn’t even happened, not only am I stressing myself out, but I miss out on the wonderful pregnancy experience, and waste my last months with my sweet, healthy, little family of three.
Baby Bailey #2 is due December 30th. “Come what may, and love it.” -Elder Joseph B. Wirthlin
Don”t stress so bad, I was born 2 months prematurely only weighed 3 pounds 2 ounces had a heart monitor on the first year of my life because my heart would stop beating randomly as I slept….but now 25 years later I’m 5″8 …and have always been in the 95th percentile of growth rate. Even if your babies start life out too early they can and will catch up! Best of luck!
Congratulations! I related to what you said about people saying i was lucky to only have a 8 month pregnancy. My boy was born at 36 weeks.
I wish you a very long pregnancy and all the best.
Thank you so much Sofia, that really means alot to me :).
Congratulations on baby #2. I hope nothing but a full healthy pregnancy.
I am one of those people with issues on fertility and such. It’s very true worrying is no good for you and your baby. It’s time to think positive!
I am trying to do that for myself as well!
Thanks so much for your comment :). I know it can be so hard to put the stress aside, but if you can manage it, it is the best thing for everyone. I am working on it everyday :), glad i’m not alone in it.
I’ll be praying! I hope everything works out. Congrats. :D
Thank you so much! I appreciate your prayers :)
Congratulations Jess! I’m so excited for you!
I’m really glad that you posted this. I had forgotten about Luke being born early-I remember it now from when you’d posted stuff on Facebook. I’m a pretty paranoid person in general but being pregnant is such a new adventure that can bring so many new fears with it; thankfully, it also comes with so many new joys. And I remember wondering during the months we were trying whether or not we could get pregnant or not. I think you shared your wonderful news in a really great and compassionate way. This post, with the quotes on fear touched me and inspire me to be braver and stop stressing too. Anyway though, I hope that this pregnancy goes great and hopefully full term and I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Love you lots, Megs
Thanks Megs! You are so sweet. Our little ones will be pretty close in age so we will have to get together! I can totally relate to being paranoid, that is totally my personality too! But I am learning to have more faith and try to let those things go :). I can’t wait to see your little one, being a parent is such an adventure and you will do SO great at it! Love you.
Yeah!!! So excited. I really like how you are being sensitive about how you announce this. I haven’t even tried yet to have babies but I know that a lot of people struggle with infertility and realize that it may be a possibility, but I try not to fear it. If only all of the pregnant girls in the world knew to be as sensitive for the sake of those who are going through those tough things! And also, we will be praying for that sweet baby to go full term! :) Love you.
I love you Sar. You are the best ever. I can’t wait for you guys to make an adorable, music loving, chameleon haired little munchkin, whenever the time is right :)
CONGRATULATIONS!!! I am so happy for you 4!
You’re so wonderful to not to take what people say as on offense. I struggle with that, too. But I’ve found that 99% of people mean well in what they say… even if it doesn’t sound that way to those that know better :)
Good luck!!
Thanks so much Brooke! I feel like I am in your shadow, haha I will be a little bit behind you four with both of our kids! I wished we lived closer to you so we could play :).
Thanks for your love and support, you are a strength to me, and i’m grateful for your example! Can’t wait to see your 2nd adorable son. Good luck :)